thetoy1


slave location:  UNITED STATES

Age group:  50 - 59

Seeking:  Many diverse personas!

Intensity of play:  i relish receiving regular discipline

Relationship desired:  Long term relationship with some play

Fetish Clothing:   Adores, leather, PVC, corsets, rubber, lingerie and stockings

Punishments deserved:   i can suffer, corporal punishment, strap-on training, crossdressing, humiliation, golden showers, CBT, bondage

My vanilla name is Ken, but I am also the toy. Thetoy is an essential part of who Ken is but exists in the larger context of Ken. Regarding demographics: >Of mature age >5'10 160 lbs. (regular exercise and workouts to stay in good physical health) >Brown, Green >Single (divorced) >Father of an adult son >Living in the Midwest; but interested eventually in relocating >Professionally employed in human services/healthcare >Degreed (M.A. in English from Vanderbilt; M.S.W. from University of Illinois) >Hobbies of travel, reading, and bicycling. Expanding a bit on the above . . . >I enjoy laughing and have been told I am entertaining company. Travel is fun for me, and, fortunate in having had the opportunity to do so, I have traveled to Spain, Greece, and Turkey as well as throughout the United States. New Orleans and Las Vegas are among my favorite places to visit in the U S of A. >My current job is providing clinical services to adults in an outpatient hospital addictions program. It's interesting work, and I am good at it. There is wonderful security in finding work you enjoy and at which you feel competent. To be able to work with joy and a sense of accomplishment is half of what it means to be at peace. >I am interested in pursuing realtime possibilities with a single person of the female persuasion, 35-50, literate, who takes good care of herself, has D/s interests, and who would enjoy meeting and exploring/getting to know one another, with a possible long-term, monogamous relationship. i am free to travel for meetings but, living in the Midwest, a lady from this section of the country may be most realistic in terms of getting to know one another. (My home is two hours by car from Chicago and three from St. Louis.) However, while residing in Illinois most of my life, I have found it less than a great place to live and am much interested in relocating, preferably in a southerly direction. I love sun and water. My belief is that genuine Dominants and submissives are born and cannot be made (although dormant and un- or poorly-recognized urges can be brought out). My own nature in this regard has been clear to me for as long as i remember. Thus, i was having submissive fantasies prior to puberty, and dressing a la femme attracted me from grade school days on. The fantasies became sexually linked in adolescence, but i did not attempt to bring them into realtime until about ten years ago. Since 1997, i have been very active in the whole D/s scene and have had the joy and good fortune to know and be in relationship with a number of excellent Dominas whose teaching i have eagerly absorbed and to whom i owe a great debt. My belief is that i have become an obedient and hardworking subbie with focus on pleasing the Lady in every way i am able and whose own pleasure is directly linked to that goal. Pain is pleasure, and i have been told that i can take quite a bit of it. Dommes have used a variety of instruments on my willing little bod : ) including: paddles straps floggers switches (not the human kind:) canes whips. Bearing a Lady's marks is an honor, but blood and permanent scars are, at least at this point, opportunities on which i would prefer to pass. Helplessness is joy, and being bound delights me. The horse may rank as my favorite item of furniture, but a wide variety of types of bondage into which Dommes have been kind enough to place me have felt nice, too. Blindfolding adds to the sense of helplessness and total trust in the She to whom i am submitting. Scenes in which i have experience include sissy maid, both one who waits on Mistress' guests but also more as the scullery variety. Women whose homes i have cleaned have told me my work is excellent, and i count it as another way to serve and serve well. Watersports and CBT are in my resume : ) and a little bit of ponyplay. Crossdressing in general is lots of fun, and appearing as a schoolgirl and outright slut represent yet one more way of being submissive as well as experiencing humiliation (about which, please see more below). My dressing as sissy and slut always occur in scene. To do so alone does zip for me, and i have concluded that CD for me is the submission of my masculinity to my Domme. i am a guy and like being one. Scenes in which i have been allowed to participate include both public and private, but my current feelings are that public public (as opposed to scening at playparties and other D/s events) is not my preference. Humiliation within the context of respect and affection and with lots of loving and affirming aftercare perhaps sums up what to me is the best that D/s can produce, and at its best, i know of no better experience in the world. Sex certainly is a delight, but there are times more exciting and fulfilling than sexual ones. The toy part of Ken is important. My ultimate goal is to find a relationship that is vanilla and monogamous, one in which she and I relate as loving, affirming, and respectful partners. Such a larger context makes my submission to her Dominance something very special and beautiful (not to mention lots and lots of fun : )  



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