dante6955

slave location: Florida

Age group: 50 - 59

Seeking: Strict Teacher, Authoritarian

Intensity of play: i relish receiving regular discipline

Relationship desired: Long term relationship with some play

Fetish Clothing: Adores, Corsets, Rubber, Leather, Lingerie and stockings, High heels and a business suit

Punishments deserved: i can suffer, Psycho-drama, Humiliation, Wax play, Corporal Punishment, Crossdressing, CBT, Golden Showers

Ever since my earliest memories i have had fantasies of being dominated by a pretty Female authority figure. It could have been an early babysitting incident, or just a genetic predisposition from birth or infancy. As an adult, i have led a mostly vanilla life due to being considered to be socially or intimately unacceptable when articulating my alternative sexual desires. i made a choice to never marry during my adult life. i have been blessed with many relationships with a number of cute, pretty and in some cases beautiful Women.

Of all those relationships, only two included alternative sex play. Additionally, i participated in one scene with a swinging couple as their sub, during which the wife just kept spanking me to encourage my oral gratification of the husband. One other time, i used a sub male as my sub. One other time, i permitted a gay male to gratify me back when I was in my twenties.

So, it is plain to see that my actual alternative experiences are limited, while my vanilla ones have been plentiful. However, i must say that my first relationship with alternative sex with a partner lasted for four years and we did some really good things with each others as switches. The second time around, it was also with a person who was in a long term relationship with me, but She stopped the alternative part once we became a regular couple.

All of my masturbation fantasies have evolved around alternative sex ever since puberty (and even before). When the Internet became available, all of the visual stimulation for masturbation always comes from the alternative portions of the websites. Back in the 90s, I would enter discussion boards where they played truth or dare and took only dares where i would have to do submissive phone sex with Lady participants.

During my relationship years, we accumulated toyboxes. But, whenever i found myself single again, i discarded the toys. So now i live with the basics--some leather cock restraints and a leather collar. These i do play with on very rare occasions.

This is my first experience joining a Fem Dom site and i will probably cancel the membership once i become disappointed. i experimented with a local Fem Dom club only to find that is was run by some power person who was into Her own gratificaion only.

i don't believe that is the intent of alternative relationships. i believe that a Dom has a very burdensome responsibility to the sub. It is an educational, discovering, and nurturing relationship that is expressed in a way that this culture does not understand.

i must say that my first four year entrance to play with my partner helped us grow together. i took the time to understand Her needs and She did the same with me. In the second case, the partner was (just my opinion) using my needs to express Her fear and hatred of men. i think that is why the play stopped once She knew She had me as a long term partner. i also think that during that time when i exposed my most embarassing desires to Her, it made Her comfortable with a male for the first time in a long time. But i don't think She ever got the sexual enjoyment from the games. This was not true for the first alternative, we both enjoyed each other in our roles and grew together by getting to know each other on such a personally exposed level.

i am probably boring any reader with these comments. Those who just get off on scenes could do it with anyone. Professional Doms do it for gifts or money. This is not my quest, although i am generous by nature, i like to think it is a byproduct of appreciation for the other stuff i am talking about.

So, let me make myself clear (and you should know that I am quite dominant in every aspect of my life except this one), I am not looking for pros. I believe I am probably in the wrong place. I am ready to shell out my bucks to be proven wrong for the next 30 days.

If i am proven wrong, if the relationship between Dom and sub can be as i described above, i will apologize completely to all on this line.

What do i seek? i seek a pretty, petite or average looking Female to control me. It is all about authority, You are in charge of me and i give myself to You to control. i am not into heavy pain. If anything, my favorite scenes would be considered to fall within the range of humiliation--being naked, wearing cock restraint, prolonged arousal, ordered masturbation to the point short of cumming for periods of time (sometimes most of the day or night), slave collar, leash, doggy walks, light spankings (over the knee is my fave), exhibitionism to Your Girlfriends, hospitality service to Your Girlfriends, oral gratification to You and Your Girlfriends, orally cleaning out the cum from Your attached Girlfriends, giving oral gratification to respectul attached males in front of You and Your Girlfriends (I don't take shit from any man at all, that is a limitation), feminization, leather wear, rubber wear (although i haven't tried that one), watersports from You and/or Your Girlfriends, ass kissing for You and Your Girlfriends, rimming You only, and anything else we discuss before a scene. i want all these things to feed our relationship. i promise to discuss my feelings, even though that is hard for a guy (especially me) to do. So, again, i believe i am in the wrong place. Prove me wrong and i will kiss, serve, and when the time is right cuddle You for life.